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Beating on a Wall – Quote of the Day

Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. - Coco Chanel

Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. – Coco Chanel

Knock, knock?  Who’s there?  No-one. It’s a wall, not a door.

Have you ever felt like you were working hard but not getting recognition? I know I’ve felt this way. When I look back, I believe the lack of recognition came from a lack of making it clear what I was accomplishing. I didn’t “toot my own horn” so to say. This was a mistake.  I thought the money and time savings I had created would be clear to management; the increased morale from improving processes would be praised, but as I looked for others to cheer my accomplishments, it was others who were cheerleading themselves that got the attention.

Stop banging your head on the wall and instead walk over and knock on the door.  It has to be the right door, so keep knocking until you find the right one!  Let anyone who will listen know what you have done, or can do!  This comes easy to many extrovert or “Type A” personalities, however, for introverts like myself, this is hard to do.  Think to yourself, what is the worst that can happen?  When stopping by the bosses office or trying to schedule a meeting with a prospect, typically the worst thing that will happen by is you will be told “not right now” or a flat “not not interested.” Move on to another influencer who may value your contribution!

This same metaphor could be applied to personal relationships. Some people wall themselves off.  No matter how hard you try to connect with them, they will not open up. At a certain point, it is better to look for the door.  This can be hard, especially if you had previously enjoyed an open relationship, however, it might be what is best for both parties.  You can continue to beat on a wall, but it will not turn into a door.

Doors open to new adventures.  These pictures were taken of my daughter entering a conservatory full of interesting tropical plants, palm trees, bananas, and exotic flowers.  This door was well worth going through.

When is a time you beat on a wall when you should have been looking for a door? Let us know in the comments!

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"Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door." - Coco Chanel

“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” – Coco Chanel




  1. Lois Alter Mark

    Wow, I never heard this quote before but it’s so true. At some point, we have to stop beating on walls and actually find a door somewhere else.

  2. Bree

    Great post! I’ve never heard of it that way before. Sometimes we just have to move on from situations and create new opportunities for ourselves.

  3. Alicia Taylor

    This is something I really needed to hear today. There is an opportunity that we really want – but the door is just so slow to open. I’m afraid my husband is about to beat a hole through the wall trying to make a door. I will have to remember this quote.


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